I’m not one that’s ever been able to hold a grudge. Never have been, and probably never will be. It’s one of those traits that’s good to have, yet it sets you up to just continuously take belittlement and resentful remarks–sometimes biting your tongue day after day to ensure that a relationship doesn’t suffer. But I think there’s a time when it becomes okay to stop biting your tongue. A time when it becomes okay to just address it, and let the damage fall as it will. Because truly, every time you bite your tongue and just let something go that really shouldn’t be let go, and every time you overlook and don’t hold a grudge, is simply another chance for someone to change their ways and their attitude. I won’t hold a grudge, but I will always remember how I’m treated, and starting soon, I’m going to quit just letting resentful remark after resentful remark go, and address it for what it is. We’ll see what remains after the dust settles.
I’m reading a status update, where this girl we went to school with is getting married. Well that’s awesome for her. Except for the fact that like a week or so before they decided to get married, they broke up, decided they couldn’t get along, arguing, etc. etc. It’s fair to say that I don’t know the whole story and never will, but regardless, marriage doesn’t and won’t fix your relationship problems. So many people today take it so lightly with the, “well if it don’t work out we’ll just get a divorce,” that it is absolutely ridiculous! That’s not the way it should be. Marriage is a lifetime commitment.
3 The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? 4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, 5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? 6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
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The sad thing is the girl’s thoughts are probably exactly in line with this comic as much as mine are at times. This should be a reminder to myself to think more optimistically.
Seeing how siblings usually grow up and grow apart, my brothers and I sort of have this pact that we won’t end up like most families do. Both of my parents have an almost nonexistent relationship with one of their siblings, and as unfortunate as that is, it lies on the other side. The reason that I say that is because my parents are the type of people that will help someone if at all possible and would do as the old saying goes, “give someone the shirt off one’s back.” Being able to see how that is, we’ve all pretty much agreed that that is no option. If I want to call up one of them when I’m older just to see what’s up, I want to be able to do that w/o any awkwardness. With family, especially immediate family, there should be no awkwardness in contacting one another.
The whole spark of this post was a situation over the weekend. I gave my brother a little bit of advice/opinions regarding finances and wanting to try to steer him and his wife in a better direction. We have a great relationship as it is, from being able to joke around with each other between the different type of women we like, to being able to work together with no problems whatsoever. Given that, I wanted to just make sure that I didn’t make him mad or anything with anything I had said. His response was something like, “why would I get mad over something like that? I like to get other’s opinions on things. I think we all have a tighter relationship now than we ever have.” And he is right, we do.
Carry out a random act of kindness, with no expectation of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you.
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