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Mom Is Doing Amazing

by Shane Holden on February 22, 2010

It’s hard to believe that a week ago tomorrow, I was fairly convinced that we were going to lose mom either entirely, or at least how we’ve always known her to be.

Her surgery was at 7:30 on Tuesday morning, and they actually didn’t get started until 9:30 because they were trying to get her knocked out for it and in position. The operation ended up lasting around 6 hours total, and was the longest 6 hours of all of our lives I believe. The doctor, Dr. Quiñones, and 2 of his team came into the waiting room when they were done, all smiling with their hands in the air. He said it was an absolute complete success and it couldn’t have went better than it did. They worked slowly removing every bit of it all the way to the stem from where it originated. It ended up being about the size of a grapefruit and the hardness of one of those little bouncy balls.

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Back In Baltimore

by Shane Holden on February 14, 2010

We made it back to Baltimore today around 3PM.  We left yesterday and stopped in the Salem/Roanoke area of Virginia, about half way, instead of doing the entire 10-11 hour trip altogether.  It was actually pretty nice to not cram the entire trip in one day and not be in such a hurry.  Not to mention it made the trip a lot easier and less stressful on mom.

Tomorrow mom has an appointment for her pre-op stuff at John Hopkins at 1, and again at 4 for a new MRI.  Assuming she is cleared for the surgery, her surgery start very early Tuesday morning.  The doctor has cleared the entire day soley for her surgery because it is so dangerous, and it’s going to require much more time than this type of surgery normally would since her tumor is so large.

View of Baltimore from our hotel

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One Year Of Last.fm

by Shane Holden on February 13, 2010

It’s hard to believe that I’ve been listening to Last.fm for an entire year already.  Over this year of using Last.fm, I’ve scrobbled 22,152 songs.

Here’s a look at the 8 artists that I’ve listened to the most.

My top 8 artists on Last.fm

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25 Life Lessons Learned By Age 25

by Shane Holden on February 11, 2010

Here are 25 things that I’ve learned or realized so far at the age of 25.

  • Friends become strangers.  And more importantly, vice versa. Prior to leaving middle school for high school, my all time favorite teacher told everyone to remember that some of the friends that you have now won’t even talk to you once you enter high school.  It’s just a transition that I suppose changes kids and the groups of people that they normally associate with.  His advice is also applicable throughout life completely.  The people you are friends with today may just up and disappear as a friend tomorrow.  It’s just a part of life that people change.  If you find yourself one day friendless, it can very well have nothing to do with yourself, but just how things play out sometimes.  You just have to remember that when you least expect it, a total stranger or an acquaintance could fill that friend void.
  • Don’t get too comfortable with anything. The moment you think everything is working out or going perfectly can be the moment when everything turns into complete chaos and uncertainty.
  • As we’ve all heard before, be careful what you wish for. Don’t set your sights solely on any one thing that you desire, but also remember to consider the finer details and consequences that surround it.  Make sure what you’re wishing for you are actually ready for, and have everything in line to be prepared to accept that wish.
  • The best thing that can happen will often make the worst thing that can happen seem insignificant. Think of the worst thing that can happen and the best thing that can happen if you’re deciding about anything, compare them, and see which one out-weighs the other.  The best thing will make the worst thing seem insignificant, especially on the instance of becoming friends or asking someone out.  The worst thing that could happen would be the word “no.”  The best thing would be to develop a relationship that could potentially last a lifetime.
  • Money can make life easier or more comfortable, but there will come a point in time when you realize that whatever satisfaction or happiness it gives you is only temporary. Some of the best and most happiest moments in your life will be those that don’t cost you a dime.
  • Take a chance when the opportunity is given to you. If you don’t, you’ll never know what might have been.
  • Take as many pictures and/or videos of loved ones and get-togethers as you can. There will come a day when you are glad you did.
  • Find that reason to get out of bed each morning. Otherwise you’ll look back at all the yesterdays and realize they are mostly empty.
  • If you are looking hard for something you will often overlook it. We sometimes find what we are looking for when we stop looking.
  • Consider things from another’s point of view rather than your own all the time. This will open your eyes to things you would normally never imagine.  An entirely different world perhaps.
  • Accept blame if it’s deserved. This is the only way to fully recognize your mistakes and improve from them.
  • Nothing heals wounds like time. Sure some things will always hurt when you reminisce on them, but with every passing day, time will help lessen that pain.
  • Don’t be so quick to judge. Get to know someone before deciding what type of person they are.
  • People will surprise you. Sometimes it’s the people that we least expect that will pull through when no one else will.
  • Don’t hold grudges. Grudges kill relationships, whether they are with friends or family.
  • Bottling up your feelings slowly kills you on the inside. Find someone you can talk to.
  • Give people the time of day. None of us are any better than the next.
  • Stop and smell the roses as often as you can. It’s too easy to get caught up in everyday life that you forget about the little things that truly matter most.
  • Bad things can happen to good people. And the opposite is true as well.  It’s just another one of life’s ironies.
  • Don’t ignore issues that need to be addressed or tended to. It allows them time to compound and become much worse.
  • Honesty truly is the best policy. Being dishonest leads to even more being dishonest.  If you tell the truth, you don’t have to try to remember what you’ve told so that you tell it correctly the next time you are dishonest.
  • Smile at strangers. It could be enough to brighten even the darkest day for someone.
  • Some things just aren’t meant to be. And if they aren’t, move on to what is waiting to be.
  • Sometimes you should take the path less traveled. The easiest path is experienced by most, while the difficult less traveled path is enjoyed by few.
  • Goodbyes are always sad. Especially when you know that it will most likely be the last time you see that person ever again.

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Twenty-Five

by Shane Holden on February 9, 2010

Yesterday I officially became a quarter of a century old.  I now get a slight bit of a break on auto insurance and can now rent rental cars without paying those ridiculous fees for being under 25.

Twenty-Four was an okay year.  Almost identical to the previous few, but hopefully Twenty-Five will prove to be much better.  It’s already starting off with a horrible beginning, but hopefully that just means it has no where to go but up from there.  Although I must acknowledge that when you think things cannot possibly get any worse, they can.  As well as when you think things can’t get any better, they can.

I have been dreading this birthday rolling around for quite some time, mostly because I am disappointed with myself for not being where I thought I would be in life at this age.  I would have expected to be married and own my own place by now, but things just haven’t worked out like I had planned out in my head so many years ago.  The day came and went, almost as if it was just another day and the age change just hasn’t bothered me like I thought it once would.  And I know this is completely because of the circumstances that surround my mom.

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Leaving For Baltimore

by Shane Holden on February 5, 2010

We’re leaving tomorrow morning sometime for John Hopkins in Baltimore.  The trip is only 650 miles, but we’re going to cut the driving in half over two days to hopefully make it easier on mom.  Right now, it looks like the weather couldn’t be much worse for this trip and needing to be there without a doubt.  They are calling for winter storm warnings up there, and quite a bit of snow.

Weather in Baltimore

It’s going to be neat to be in a few states that I’ve never been, but honestly, at this point I have no interest at all in seeing anything that any of them have to offer along the way.  I’ve been talking for the past couple of years about checking out Washington D.C., and even though we’re going to be right there at it, I am just not in the right frame of mind or mood to even want to go there.  The only place I want to see at this point is John Hopkins Hospital, and getting mom well.  My camera will be with me in case I change my mind.  I don’t expect to, but the snow may persuade me otherwise.

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Update On Mom

by Shane Holden on February 4, 2010

Mom is doing as well as to be expected right now.  She spends most of the evenings when we get home from work laying on the couch to ease her headaches.  It seems as though her headaches are becoming more frequent, and I would imagine it would be from any growth that may be occurring in her tumor.

We made a visit to the University of Tennessee a couple of weeks ago, and had an appointment for the University of Georgia, but ended up cancelling it after talking with and deciding to visit John Hopkins in Baltimore.  The idea of having a team that is dedicated solely to neurological surgeries and a doctor that genuinely seems to care about his patients, was the major deciding factors.  It’s not that we didn’t like UT, it’s just that it’s a one chance surgery, and we can’t risk any damage or losing mom because the place happened to be closer and more convenient.

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LOST Season 6

by Shane Holden on February 2, 2010

Season 6 premiers tonight, and I’ll without a doubt be watching it.  I’m sad to see the series wrapping up, but can’t wait to see how they pull it all together for the finale.  I’d eventually like to buy the entire series and watch it again without any hiatuses between seasons.

LOST - Season 6


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